I n my early 20s, I bought a book called "The Intimate Kiss," a tract on the art of cunnilingus, which I studied diligently in hopes of becoming a great lover. Over the years, I read other books on lovemaking techniques and, on the whole, have left behind many well-loved, satisfied women. I hope I don't sound like I'm bragging: I am suggesting that the men reading this article can consciously improve their love lives by learning a few things and paying attention to their partners. Despite my studies, I never gave spanking much thought and I was totally unaware of the generation and transmission of erotic power inherent in the act. Although I always enjoyed pictures of women in leather and rubber fetish gear, the actuality of bondage, submission, discipline seemed quite scary.
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(PDF) Sexual Spanking, the Self, and the Construction of Deviance
Takeaway: Spankings can be used for much more than a little slap and tickle during hot sex. A smack on your ass while you're getting down and dirty is hot, right? There is so much more to spankings than the typical slap and tickle during sex. This might surprise you, but some people even find them therapeutic.
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Skip navigation! Story from Sex. This isn't surprising, not only can spanking be fun, but for the spankee, it can also release endorphins , causing a natural high. It's also a low maintenance activity. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline , dominance and submission , and sadism and masochism yes, the D and S are doing double duty , and spanking has all aspects of the above.